Little Notes, Big Feelings

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Welcome to Joy Moments where we spread moments of joy throughout

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the world to create some lovely joy

ripples, in everyone's everyday life.

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I'm Lacey, your co-host who has a

baby you will here in this episode,

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violet is wanting to get her own

joy moments in here with Sarah.

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Hi Sarah.

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Sara: Hi Lacey.

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I am excited to have your daughter joining

us 'cause she is many joy moments for me.

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Lacey: She is a delight.

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I, I, I almost get angry at how

delightful she can be because,

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we're not really sleeping very well.

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But then she's so happy, so

I'm like, I can't even be that

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mad 'cause she's a delight.

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And so now I'm tired and frustrated,

but also happy at the same time.

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And so she, you know, it is what it is.

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Sara: That's life in a nutshell.

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. Lacey: I mean, if there's anything that

I'm used to is a lot of big feelings.

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Rachel is a friend of our house, we have

a lot of Miss Rachel, and one of the

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songs is called Big Feelings and it was

playing, and I looked at Joe and I said,

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I'm not afraid of your big feelings.

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And he looked at me and he said,

I am afraid of your big feelings.

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To which I said that is

the correct response.

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Sara: I'm trying not to laugh too hard

'cause I know it'll spike the microphone.

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I could witness, I could witness

that so clearly in my head.

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Lacey: That's true.

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Fair enough.

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Absolutely.

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I'm really excited to

share my joy moment today.

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and it features my other daughter, Iris.

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the mornings my husband drops

her off at daycare, so there's

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like two camps in the morning.

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There's Joe and Iris going

out into the world, and then

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there's Isaac, violet and me.

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And we get Isaac on the bus, us We've

heard me how much I love my husband,

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Joe, but he is not a morning person.

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So in the mornings I am usually the

one like getting everybody moving.

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Like, Hey, are you doing this?

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You need to do this.

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How about this?

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Get dressed.

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I picked out this outfit for you.

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and I, we've learned things

that motivate Iris, one of

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which is beating Joe downstairs.

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That's very important to her.

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So we always have that in our back pocket.

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I rem I, one of the t-shirts I got

her for Christmas had this little

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like heart pocket, like, it was like

a, where a pocket on a shirt would

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be like if you like a pen pocket, if

you think, but it's a little heart.

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And it was cute.

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And I thought, oh, she can put stuff

in there, and that kind of thing.

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So I picked that up for her to wear and I

put it down in her like pile of clothes.

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Mm-hmm.

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not moving.

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And then I try to sell.

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The shirt.

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I was like, see it's got this pocket.

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So I run into the office really quick

and I just wrote, I Love You on a little

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sheet of paper and like decorated it

a little bit and brought it back and

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folded it up and put it in the pocket.

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I said, you can look at it

if you, when you get dressed.

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And that was motivation.

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So she got dressed really fast and

then opened it and looked at it

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and I said, it says I love you.

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And she.

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I thought it was the greatest thing.

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So then she folded it back

up and put it in her pocket.

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Went and found gel.

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She pulled it out and folded it, showed

him, fold it back up, put in her pocket.

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I thought that was the end of it, right?

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I'm like, oh, good thing.

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Well, when she comes home, she

comes running in and she's like,

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mommy, I lost the note, but then

I found it again, so it's okay.

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And I was like, okay, cool.

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That's fine.

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Again, thinking that's it.

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Later that night, Joel looks at me and

he was like, I need you to know, she

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told me today that today was the best day

ever because of your note and that she.

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Just loved it so much.

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It made her feel so special and so seen.

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and she's, I am very effusive

with my words of, like we

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say, I love you all the time.

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I tell them how much I love being their

mom all the time and that kind of stuff.

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been particularly effusive lately,

like, you're the best mom in the world.

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And I'm like, cool.

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I hope you think it that way

in 15 years and all this stuff.

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And that night she was very effusive about

like how wonderful of a mom I was and.

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It's because she loved that little note.

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And as, as I was saying that, I was like,

well, my mom used to write me little

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notes and like when I would pack, she

would pack my lunch, there'd be a note.

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And I even have two instances

in my mind of when my mom left

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a note somewhere unexpectedly.

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So like one time she left it on my.

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She was at my house and she

left it on my desk at my house.

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And then I had some series of

appointments that she took me to,

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and she put the note on my dash, like

on the, under the windshield wiper

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of my car, and it said, I love you.

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And I was like, oh, know, I

know now what Iris is feeling.

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I know that feeling of like

having that tangible thing

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from somebody that loves you.

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So just, I'm riding

that high two days later

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Sara: That makes my heart happy.

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it's triggering all these good memories

of me receiving and now I've got

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this whole thing of like, Ooh, should

we just always be writing notes and

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slipping them into people's pockets?

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Like little joy droplets

all over the world because.

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That is the power of the joy Ripple.

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Imagine how she showed up at daycare

that day with that note in her pocket.

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That is so beautiful.

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I'm trying not to cry 'cause it's way too

early in the day for me to start crying.

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Let's not break that seal.

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Lacey: I didn't realize

she would love it so much.

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Like she literally, like Joe was like,

she said something and she was like, what?

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Today was special.

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Mommy wrote me the note,

like I was like the note.

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And then yeah.

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Violet, we do hear you.

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You're heard.

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Keep going.

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Sara: Her girlfriend that, and that

just again, goes to the power of.

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Joy doesn't have to be big.

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It's not necessarily winning

the lottery or going to France.

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it can be your mom writing you

a note that says, I love you.

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That goes in your little heart pocket.

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I have a similar memory, so my dad

was actually, worked out of the house

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when I was little, so he was the one

who would help me pack my lunches.

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Sometimes he'd actually draw on the

paper bag and then other times he would

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do a napkin and he loved to draw Snoopy.

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so I would pull out little notes with

drawings on them and yeah, it did.

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It made the day feel really

special ' cause it was a one-to-one.

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So you are a great mom, Lacey.

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I love that.

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Lacey: I don't often feel like a great

mom as, as we started this episode

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with how much Miss Rachel is in our

house Screen time is always a battle.

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so.

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I need to hear that right now, you know?

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'cause I'm got Miami CCF s

stuff coming back in and, and

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that really affects as a mom.

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And so it is nice to hear that.

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Sara: Can we have another podcast

called Compliments where people call

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in and they need compliments and we

just shower them with compliments.

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Lacey: I did see your post

about favorite compliments.

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I realized one of my favorite compliments

has shaped who I see myself as.

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one time one of my dad's business partners

called me Vivacious after meeting me, and

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I'm like, well, that's who I wanna be.

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that is who I aspire to be

all the time, vivacious.

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Sara: That makes me happy.

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you were telling me about our recent joy

moments, the snippet about the birds that

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went a little viral on TikTok and you told

me somebody called it wholesome and I was

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like, yes, that one nestled into my heart.

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I was like, yeah, that's it.

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I wanna be seen as wholesome.

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In my intentions and my

joy and spreading it well.

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So you commenting on my threads post

actually is a perfect segue into my

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joy, which is like a little Russian

doll, like nesting doll of joy.

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So follow me with this

Russian nesting doll.

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. So I am back on threads.

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I've learned how to show up in a way that

feels better to me and kind of shield

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myself from the stuff I don't like.

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Lacey: Violet is officially joining us.

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Sara: So I made a post on threads as I

was taking down the ornaments on my tree.

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And I realized I love going to

other people's houses and seeing

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their trees because everyone's is

unique and it is such a reflection

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of them and their history and

it most ornaments tell a story.

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And so I went on to threads and I asked

people if they still had their trees up.

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I said, share an ornament

and the story behind it.

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and I got.

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Amazing responses, and if anybody's

interested, you can go to my Threads,

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account steps with Sarah and check it out.

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So I picked out one and it's

a little, it's, it's sad

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and joyful at the same time.

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so there's a picture of a tree and

then there's a name tag in the tree.

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And this woman, JL Shepley, she said my

local garden center names their trees.

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The tree we picked this year hadn't been

set up yet, so it didn't have a name tag.

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Told the guy to just pick

the first tag on the pile.

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It was Eric, which is the same

name as the son of a lifelong

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family friend who died recently.

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Go to share with his mother that

Eric would definitely be present

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with us this Christmas and future

Christmases, because I keep all the

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name tags and use them as ornaments.

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So, okay.

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I just have to unwrap the joy here.

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I love that there is, a

tree store someplace that

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names their Christmas trees.

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Love that.

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That is joy.

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And then that this synchrony of them

getting the name of somebody who had

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passed away recently And then that

they keep all the name tags on their

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trees to remember all their past trees.

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Again, Russian nesting

doll of happy memories.

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So I loved that.

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Lacey: Have you listened to

the episode with my dad yet?

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Oh, sharing the middle.

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Sara: I've listened to half of it.

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I loved the part about getting the treat.

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Lacey: Through the door.

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Sara: Yes, I love that part.

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Lacey: I had a realization while talking

to him about how much our tree at their

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house, but really my house is very much

a story of Joe and i's life together.

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because we were both Christmas people.

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He proposed to me in front of our

Christmas tree with a Christmas ornament.

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and then every year since

then, we've gifted each other a

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Christmas ornament for that year.

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anytime we travel somewhere, we try

to get a Christmas ornament for it.

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So it really is.

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We gave out Christmas ornaments

as our, favor at our wedding.

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So every once in a while I get a text

from somebody when they're putting up

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or taking down their tree that they're

putting up the, or my, my, wedding.

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So it really is like a moment every

year where I get to kind of celebrate.

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Joe and I in a way of our

love and relationship.

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It really does tell the story.

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We've got lots of like

Indian Luna ones on there.

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There's some from when I was

a baby and he was a baby.

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of course now we have all kinds of kids,

and my kids are the most sentimental

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people I've ever met in my life.

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And so when we were putting it

up, they would take one at a time.

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Mommy, tell us about this ornament.

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Tell us about this ornament.

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And it was very sweet.

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Sara: Oh yeah.

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I'd never really thought about the

power of story with the Christmas

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ornaments in the Christmas tree.

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And yeah, that made me

really happy this year.

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Lacey: I now wish that we had named

the Christmas trees with my parents.

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they had personalities, you know?

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So if you can be like,

do you remember Jerry?

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He was a heck of a tree.

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Sara: I like this.

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This is fun.

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Oh, this is the kind of stuff that

gets me going through the day.

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Lacey: when we did get a real

tree, we don't anymore 'cause

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it's too hard with kids right now.

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But when we did, I would cry every

year when we took it down because

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I was sad about like that tree

leaving our house, Joe and I.

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So I love that that's a way

honor that tree in a future year.

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when she gets to be like four or

five, we're gonna do real trees

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again, and we're gonna name 'em.

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It's decided.

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Sara: Oh, you could do like a little

paper chain with the names and

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then connect every year the name of

the tree, and then put the year on

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the back, and so it becomes like,

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Lacey: Oh my gosh, I could cry

right now thinking about it.

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Okay.

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Sara: okay.

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Lacey: Obviously it's very clear.

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This all means a lot to me.

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Thanks for, spending some time

with us today here on Joy Moments.

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I hope you got to take a little bit

of joy and put it out in the world.

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Sarah, do you have any closing thoughts?

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Sara: I wanna say it's been a rough

morning and just recording joy moments.

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Brought me joy.

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And so if anyone out there listening

got just a blip of joy from

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listening to us, that's amazing.

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And I know I'm gonna smile when

I listen to this later 'cause I

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will have forgotten everything.

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So hello to Future Me.

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You're awesome.

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Lacey: Remember, if you have a joy moment

you would like to share with us, if you

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go to joyful support movement.com/submit.

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Go to submit Joy Moments and other things

like Q and A's for No Shame and our game.

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thanks

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Sara: Thank you, Lacey.

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Thank you, Lacey.